Jan
12
No editing.
Filed Under Misogyny | 4 Comments
Yeah. There’s a contingent of people who might not “get” this. Anyone who doesn’t game probably won’t. I’m just going to spit this out unedited, because I edit all my shit to death before it goes up and I’m kind of tired of doing that when I just need to vent.
I’m sick of the privilege. I’m sick of the way men can disengage from conversations that challenge their line of thinking and may just force them to see outside their own fucking bubble. Really, it enrages me. A few people have left our guild, but a small reason cited was that they didn’t like me – because I call them out on their misogynist shit. Yeah, I’ve had my share of being called sensitive in a number of different ways in the past year or so and I’m entirely sick of it. I don’t care if people think I’m sensitive when I can.not.stand hearing the word “rape” dropped all the time as the word of choice for having been blitzed in a battleground. I don’t care if people think that I’m just being too fucking sensitive when I DON’T want to hear shit like “this boss is going to go down like a hooker on mardi gras”, “hold on while I slap Biel’s head under the table”, or the women that you’ve been lucky enough to have sex with be referred to as “pieces of ass.”
Spend a day being a “hooker” and get back to me when you find you can’t joke about the fucking nightmare that it can be. Get back to me when you’ve been reduced to sexual services and parts, or when you’ve been the victim of a violent sexual assault. Get back to me when YOU’VE BEEN RAPED. But hey, since we’re men who don’t generally have to worry about/deal with/think about this shit in any way because it doesn’t effect us, it’s lolfunny and NOT A BIG DEAL!!!!!! And if someone challenges me on it, let’s be defensive about it and remove myself from the situation rather than think about it in any way, shape, or form that is empathetic!!!!
I resent that anyone feels they have the right to this, that they don’t have to consider what they say and the way it can effect others. YOUR WORDS DO NOT EXIST IN A VACUUM. How in the fucking hell is anybody that fucked up that they feel they don’t have to monitor the misogynist shit that spews out of their mouths? Oh, wait, I know – when you don’t consider women to be HUMAN BEINGS.
And ok. I’m trying to turn this perspective around. In the same way I constantly see men turn their backs on these conversations, and be able to deny their complicity, their lack of awareness, their privilege, in the same way they can just shut down any sort of dialog, white feminists do the same when women of color engage them. And I can’t imagine the rage, when someone claims to fight for you and then they turn their backs when you try to point out the ways that they’re racist/exclusive etc. etc. Just as men have the privilege to shut out certain elements of conversation, unfortunately we as white women have the ability to do the same, and obviously we have. For decades.
I feel kind of better since I vented. I had a more thoughtful post (read: trying not to be angry) about language in gaming in the works. Maybe one of these days it will see the light of day.
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